‘What are you going to do next..?’

Hey guys!

Well, aren’t I just the most useless blogger?! I haven’t posted for months! πŸ™ˆ life has been extremely busy since my last post with final uni deadlines, starting my new job and life has just taken over really! However, here I am! 😊

So, as some of you know I have recently finished uni. IM GRADUATING WITH A FIRST CLASS HONOURS DEGREE IN ZOOLOGY! πŸŽ‰ it’s been a whirlwind few months but I have never been so proud of myself and it’s truly amazing to see those around me so proud of me too!

However, despite working my arse off for the last three years towards the highest possible grade you can get, there’s always that question from someone. ‘What are you going to do next?’ πŸ˜’ some even top it off with something like ‘you should do a masters! Don’t stop now otherwise you won’t go back’ πŸ™„

WOAH, WOAH, WOAH! Hold it there Barbara. Firstly, I started my uni course when I was 22, six years after I left school. So please don’t tell me that I won’t go back to education if I want to. Secondly, I may have just finished what have been THE most stressful three years of my life with deadlines left, right and centre, quite frankly I think I deserve a break from the pressure you seem to be piling on!

Now I am not one to blow my own trumpet very often, but you don’t get a first class degree from going out every night, missing lectures and starting work the night before it’s due. I have never committed myself so completely to something or worked so hard in my life. As well as working at a job to keep myself afloat, often full time in holidays. Top it all off with my final year being tarnished with a serious health diagnosis and having to miss three months of lectures..I think I’ve done pretty bloody well! πŸ’ƒ

And as it happens, I’m loving what I’m doing at the minute. I’m a self employed pet sitter (look out for a future post on my experience so far) and it’s perfect for me right now. Apparently to certain people this isn’t a good enough use of my degree. To those people, I’d like you to kindly accept my middle finger 😏

Of course I had hopes of finishing uni and starting a dream career in animal conservation or alternatively I was really interested in doing a masters. But sometimes you have to put your health first and being self employed means I can work around my recent diagnosis of PCS, whereas, a full time and potentially stressful career would likely hinder my recovery. One day, I will have recovered and I will get that dream job! But the minute I’m doing something I enjoy which is also benefiting my health, which is what’s important right now.

So, please don’t force someone who is just relieved to have finished something to their highest capability to think about what they MUST do next. And certainly don’t make them feel shit about what they ARE doing, at least they’re doing something.

I’m not saying some people don’t ask ‘what’s next?’ Because they’re genuinely interested in what you’ve got planned..But let the person you’re asking lead the conversation. Someone might just need a break after three/four/five years of hard work and stress. They might be struggling to get the job they want. They might get their dream job straight away. They might choose to go travelling. They might work their butts off in a supermarket, behind a bar, in a fast-food restaurant to get money behind them. They might have a family to get back to and spend time with who have supported them whilst doing their course.

You never know what someone is going through and it was hard for me to accept the fact I couldn’t go straight into that dream job or carry on my education due to my health. People can do what they want, when they want and are entitled to do what is in the best interest for them..Don’t increase the pressure that society already puts on them.

And to those of you who have faced this pressure or encounter it in the future, I hope this little post supports your decision to just do your thang, whatever that may be! πŸ’ͺ

Thank you to lots of you wonderful bloggers for ALL the support behind The Key To Kayleigh and continuing the support during my little break and during some tough times. You’re fab.u.lous! I promise I won’t leave it as long next time ❀

Roll on graduation in November! πŸŽ‰

Until next time..


10 thoughts on “‘What are you going to do next..?’

  1. Congratulations on finishing your degree!! πŸŽ‰ Your story is a huge inspiration to me in that you started your course when you were 22 (it makes me feel like I still have time as I get those people asking what I want to do next as well and I have no idea. They don’t seem to want to understand the difficulty of how your health can effect the decision and only seem to want to push me down into where they think I should stay. My mind is veering off into so many different directions and most of the distance learning courses I think I want to do have already started but I’m determined to not give up!). I hope you have an amazing graduation because you deserve it! πŸ˜„β€οΈ

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    1. Ahh thank you so much! 😊 hey, you have all the time in the world to decide what you want to do! You know what is best for you, no one else, so keep doing what you’re doing lovely and you’ll do what you want to do in your own time ❀ thank you so much, I can’t wait! πŸŽ‰πŸ’ƒ

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  2. Congratulations Kayleigh!! You’ve worked your ass off, and deserve all the success! But YOU are the only one who can define what success may be to you. Don’t let anyone tell you what comes next. Do it at your own pace and always, always put your health first. Tbh, your job at the moment sounds bloody awesome, and I genuinely cannot wait to read your blog post all about your pet sitting adventures! Xxx

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    1. Ahhh Lisi, that means so much, thank you! 😘 I completely agree, I’m so pleased I’ve achieved this at a point in my life where I just do what’s best for me and know that’s what’s important. If this had happened a few years ago, the (few) people who instil this pressure would’ve really got to me and I’d be a mess. But what they think doesn’t matter to me and the people who do matter are 100% with me 😊
      Honestly, I absolutely love the job! I can’t wait to do a post. Thank you so much for all your lovely words and always being so supportive..you’re a truly wonderful human! xxxx

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  3. Hey Kayleigh! First of all congratulations on your degree. I’ve just gotten my STEM degree as well and I agree people make it seem like going straight for the Masters after is the best choice. Quite frankly, I relate to what you’re saying about it being really stressful, it was stressful for me too and so I decided to take a gap year(or years). You have to do what’s right for you!

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  4. Well done Keighley, I can relate to what you saying. Do what you want, whenever you want and wherever you want. Above all it is within you to know what’s best for you and you know your limitations.
    I like your style

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